diff --git a/app/controllers/aspects_controller.rb b/app/controllers/aspects_controller.rb
index 20af009daea8682380f344b27452dd254e04ea0f..922d3cdbda6168d8f0cec2e1162fea0d99fa2b12 100644
--- a/app/controllers/aspects_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/aspects_controller.rb
@@ -53,7 +53,7 @@ class AspectsController < ApplicationController
       elsif params[:aspect][:share_with]
         @contact = Contact.where(:id => params[:aspect][:contact_id]).first
         @person = Person.where(:id => params[:aspect][:person_id]).first
-        @contact = current_user.contact_for(@person)
+        @contact = current_user.contact_for(@person) || Contact.new
 
         respond_to do |format|
           format.js { render :json => {:html => render_to_string(
diff --git a/app/controllers/contacts_controller.rb b/app/controllers/contacts_controller.rb
index e5404d35157c7b1a238e92dc93d021cd0952675b..c64d51a376a2109ab7b53d6e1ac39d01c92682c7 100644
--- a/app/controllers/contacts_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/contacts_controller.rb
@@ -6,31 +6,54 @@ class ContactsController < ApplicationController
   before_filter :authenticate_user!
   
   def new
-    #should be share_with?
-    render :nothing => true
+    @person = Person.find(params[:person_id])
+    @aspects_with_person = []
+    @aspects_without_person = current_user.aspects
+    @contact = Contact.new
+    render :layout => false
   end
 
   def create
     @person = Person.find(params[:person_id])
     @aspect = current_user.aspects.where(:id => params[:aspect_id]).first
 
-    request_to_aspect(@aspect, @person)
+    @contact = request_to_aspect(@aspect, @person)
 
-    flash.now[:notice] =  I18n.t 'aspects.add_to_aspect.success'
+    if @contact && @contact.persisted?
+      flash.now[:notice] =  I18n.t 'aspects.add_to_aspect.success'
 
-    respond_to do |format|
-      format.js { render :json => {
-        :button_html => render_to_string(:partial => 'aspect_memberships/add_to_aspect',
-                         :locals => {:aspect_id => @aspect.id,
-                                     :person_id => @person.id}),
-        :badge_html =>  render_to_string(:partial => 'aspects/aspect_badge',
-                            :locals => {:aspect => @aspect}),
-        :contact_id => current_user.contact_for(@person).id
-        }}
-      format.html{ redirect_to aspect_path(@aspect.id)}
+      respond_to do |format|
+        format.js { render :json => {
+          :button_html => render_to_string(:partial => 'aspect_memberships/add_to_aspect',
+                           :locals => {:aspect_id => @aspect.id,
+                                       :person_id => @person.id}),
+          :badge_html =>  render_to_string(:partial => 'aspects/aspect_badge',
+                              :locals => {:aspect => @aspect}),
+          :contact_id => @contact.id
+          }}
+        format.html{ redirect_to aspect_path(@aspect.id)}
+      end
+    else
+      flash[:error] = I18n.t 'contacts.create.failure'
+      redirect_to :back
     end
   end
 
+  def edit
+    @contact = current_user.contacts.find(params[:id])
+
+    @person = @contact.person
+    @aspects_with_person = []
+
+    if @contact
+      @aspects_with_person = @contact.aspects
+    end
+
+    @aspects_without_person = @all_aspects - @aspects_with_person
+
+    render :layout => false
+  end
+
   def destroy
     contact = current_user.contacts.where(:id => params[:id]).first
     if current_user.disconnect(contact)
@@ -50,5 +73,6 @@ class ContactsController < ApplicationController
       request.destroy
       contact.update_attributes(:pending => false)
     end
+    contact
   end
 end
diff --git a/app/controllers/people_controller.rb b/app/controllers/people_controller.rb
index bae6b785ad5a43b86ceb9861191eadc9fb993e70..84d521d5df035da538f75e033e9731e017337bba 100644
--- a/app/controllers/people_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/people_controller.rb
@@ -57,6 +57,9 @@ class PeopleController < ApplicationController
       if @contact
         @aspects_with_person = @contact.aspects
         @contacts_of_contact = @contact.contacts
+      else
+        @contact ||= Contact.new
+        @contacts_of_contact = []
       end
 
       if (@person != current_user.person) && (!@contact || @contact.pending)
@@ -67,7 +70,6 @@ class PeopleController < ApplicationController
 
       @posts = current_user.posts_from(@person).where(:type => "StatusMessage").paginate  :per_page => 15, :page => params[:page]
       @fakes = PostsFake.new(@posts)
-
       respond_with @person, :locals => {:post_type => :all}
 
     else
@@ -85,20 +87,6 @@ class PeopleController < ApplicationController
     end
   end
 
-  def share_with
-    @person = Person.find(params[:id])
-    @contact = current_user.contact_for(@person)
-    @aspects_with_person = []
-
-    if @contact
-      @aspects_with_person = @contact.aspects
-    end
-
-    @aspects_without_person = @all_aspects - @aspects_with_person
-
-    render :layout => nil
-  end
-
   private
   def webfinger(account, opts = {})
     Resque.enqueue(Job::SocketWebfinger, current_user.id, account, opts)
diff --git a/app/helpers/aspects_helper.rb b/app/helpers/aspects_helper.rb
index b658cc2f4c337b752221bf1891d52f8be3c15129..850404f913cca9ed87ce098fa1f21f0473b9abb5 100644
--- a/app/helpers/aspects_helper.rb
+++ b/app/helpers/aspects_helper.rb
@@ -42,7 +42,7 @@ module AspectsHelper
   end
 
   def contact_or_membership(contact)
-    (contact) ? 'aspect_memberships' : 'contacts'
+    (contact.persisted?) ? 'aspect_memberships' : 'contacts'
   end
 
   def aspect_membership_button(aspect, contact, person)
diff --git a/app/views/people/_aspect_list.haml b/app/views/people/_aspect_list.haml
index 02784a4083aba564db4daffb87c6164274a01681..8a3e121e5ef2bb87fdeb12e9818a82fd27e5cb27 100644
--- a/app/views/people/_aspect_list.haml
+++ b/app/views/people/_aspect_list.haml
@@ -4,26 +4,27 @@
 
 - content_for :head do
   =javascript_include_tag 'contact-list'
-
 .aspects
-  - if !contact
+  - if !contact || !contact.persisted?
     %h4
       = link_to truncate(t('people.show.not_connected', :name => person.name), :length => 49, :separator => ' ', :omission => ''),
-        {:controller => "people",
-        :action => "share_with",
-        :id => @person.id},
+        {:controller => "contacts",
+        :action => "new",
+        :person_id => person.id},
         :class => 'share_with button',
         :rel => 'facebox'
   - elsif contact.pending
     %h4
       = t('people.person.pending_request')
 
-  .badges{:class => ("hidden" if !contact)}
-    = aspect_badges(aspects_with_person)
-    %p
-    = link_to t('.edit_membership'),
-            {:controller => "people",
-            :action => "share_with",
-            :id => @person.id},
-            :class => 'button',
-            :rel => 'facebox'
+  - else
+    .badges{:class => ("hidden" if !contact.persisted?)}
+      = aspect_badges(aspects_with_person)
+      %p
+      = link_to t('.edit_membership'),
+              {:controller => "contacts",
+              :action => "edit",
+              :id => contact.id,
+              :person_id => person.id},
+              :class => 'button',
+              :rel => 'facebox'
diff --git a/app/views/people/_person.html.haml b/app/views/people/_person.html.haml
index 228ad17e09cc27a50c7b2935fee6b78e56e96a78..01dce704302f2c36bc5a7ccc89fe01ec5afd0495 100644
--- a/app/views/people/_person.html.haml
+++ b/app/views/people/_person.html.haml
@@ -13,16 +13,16 @@
       = t('.pending_request')
     - elsif request && request.sender == person
       = link_to t('people.show.incoming_request', :name => truncate(person.name, :length => 20, :separator => ' ', :omission => '')),
-        {:controller => "people",
-        :action => "share_with",
-        :id => person.id},
+        {:controller => "contacts",
+        :action => "new",
+        :person_id => person.id},
         :class => 'share_with button',
         :rel => 'facebox'
     - else
       = link_to t('people.show.start_sharing'),
-        {:controller => "people",
-        :action => "share_with",
-        :id => person.id},
+        {:controller => "contacts",
+        :action => "new",
+        :person_id => person.id},
         :class => 'button',
         :rel => 'facebox'
 
diff --git a/app/views/people/_person.mobile.haml b/app/views/people/_person.mobile.haml
index cc424791d40e4e1b7be5a9160a2d833de41b6b03..45b9f0326b37cde4b1e614c58fe76ef2aef2adb0 100644
--- a/app/views/people/_person.mobile.haml
+++ b/app/views/people/_person.mobile.haml
@@ -9,12 +9,19 @@
       = t('.thats_you')
     - elsif contact && !contact.pending
       = t('.already_connected')
-    - elsif (contact && contact.pending) || request
+    - elsif (contact && contact.pending) || (request && request.recipient == person)
       = t('.pending_request')
+    - elsif request && request.sender == person
+      = link_to t('people.show.incoming_request', :name => truncate(person.name, :length => 20, :separator => ' ', :omission => '')),
+        {:controller => "contacts",
+        :action => "new",
+        :person_id => person.id},
+        :class => 'share_with button',
+        :rel => 'facebox'
     - else
       = link_to t('people.show.start_sharing'),
-        {:controller => "people",
-        :action => "share_with",
+        {:controller => "contacts",
+        :action => "new",
         :id => person.id},
         :class => 'button',
         :rel => 'facebox'
diff --git a/app/views/people/_share_with_pane.html.haml b/app/views/people/_share_with_pane.html.haml
deleted file mode 100644
index b980f18fd003ec903c2b635652546abba17b2a29..0000000000000000000000000000000000000000
--- a/app/views/people/_share_with_pane.html.haml
+++ /dev/null
@@ -1,33 +0,0 @@
--#   Copyright (c) 2010, Diaspora Inc.  This file is
--#   licensed under the Affero General Public License version 3 or later.  See
--#   the COPYRIGHT file.
-
-.aspect_list#aspects_list{:data=> {:contact_id=> (contact ? contact.id : nil)}}
-  %ul
-    - for aspect in aspects_with_person
-      = render :partial => 'aspects/aspect_list_item', 
-               :locals => {:aspect => aspect, :person => person,
-                           :contact => contact}
-
-    - for aspect in aspects_without_person
-      = render :partial => 'aspects/aspect_list_item', 
-               :locals => {:aspect => aspect, :person => person,
-                           :contact => contact}
-.add_aspect
-  = form_for(Aspect.new, :remote => true) do |aspect|
-    .right
-      = aspect.submit t('.add_new_aspect'), :class => 'button'
-    = aspect.error_messages
-    = aspect.hidden_field :person_id, :value => person.id if person
-    = aspect.hidden_field :contact_id, :value => contact.id if contact
-    = aspect.hidden_field :share_with, :value => true
-    %p
-      = aspect.text_field :name, :style => "display:inline;"
-    %p.checkbox_select
-      = aspect.label :contacts_visible, t('aspects.edit.make_aspect_list_visible')
-      = aspect.check_box :contacts_visible, :checked => true, :default => true
-.done
-  .right
-    = link_to t('aspects.aspect_contacts.done_editing'), "#", :class => "button", :onClick => '$.facebox.close();'
-  - if contact
-    = link_to t('people.profile_sidebar.remove_contact'), contact, :confirm => t('are_you_sure'), :method => :delete
diff --git a/app/views/people/share_with.html.haml b/app/views/people/share_with.html.haml
deleted file mode 100644
index 851f17ffee6e34d3fe8692769f06c1049963f9d7..0000000000000000000000000000000000000000
--- a/app/views/people/share_with.html.haml
+++ /dev/null
@@ -1,19 +0,0 @@
--#   Copyright (c) 2010, Diaspora Inc.  This file is
--#   licensed under the Affero General Public License version 3 or later.  See
--#   the COPYRIGHT file.
-
-#share_with
-  #facebox_header
-    = person_image_link(@person, :size => :thumb_small)
-    %h4
-      = t('.share_with', :name => @person.name)
-
-      .description
-        = t('.accepts', :name => @person.first_name)
-
-  = render :partial => 'share_with_pane',
-    :locals => {:person => @person,
-                :contact => @contact,
-                :aspects_with_person => @aspects_with_person,
-                :aspects_without_person => @aspects_without_person}
-
diff --git a/app/views/people/show.html.haml b/app/views/people/show.html.haml
index cfb8506daef3a994c2ae1493bb462c2006950c84..d40ba3a1d1b7f9e7d9ee0091b8330f41b2001078 100644
--- a/app/views/people/show.html.haml
+++ b/app/views/people/show.html.haml
@@ -20,24 +20,24 @@
 
 .span-15.last
   #author_info
-    - unless @contact || current_user.person == @person
+    - unless @contact.persisted? || current_user.person == @person
       .right
         - if @incoming_request
           = link_to t('.incoming_request', :name => truncate(@person.name, :length => 20, :separator => ' ', :omission => '')),
-            {:controller => "people",
-            :action => "share_with",
-            :id => @person.id},
+            {:controller => "contacts",
+            :action => "new",
+            :person_id => @person.id},
             :class => 'share_with button',
             :rel => 'facebox'
         -else
           = link_to t('.start_sharing'),
-            {:controller => "people",
-            :action => "share_with",
-            :id => @person.id},
+            {:controller => "contacts",
+            :action => "new",
+            :person_id => @person.id},
             :class => 'share_with button',
             :rel => 'facebox'
         - if @share_with
-          = javascript_tag "$(document).ready(function() {jQuery.facebox({ ajax: '#{share_with_path(:id => @person.id)}' });});"
+          = javascript_tag "$(document).ready(function() {jQuery.facebox({ ajax: '#{new_contact_path(:person_id => @person.id)}' });});"
 
 
     - else
diff --git a/app/views/people/show.mobile.haml b/app/views/people/show.mobile.haml
index da757958b2a601889a344e5539dda5e584caa271..95b0f4eda00d0f4d94e72bcc836d357e0feb0d57 100644
--- a/app/views/people/show.mobile.haml
+++ b/app/views/people/show.mobile.haml
@@ -10,8 +10,8 @@
   - unless @contact || current_user.person == @person
     .right
       = link_to "start sharing",
-        {:controller => "people",
-        :action => "share_with",
+        {:controller => "contact",
+        :action => "new",
         :id => @person.id},
         :class => 'share_with button',
         :rel => 'facebox'
diff --git a/config/locales/diaspora/en.yml b/config/locales/diaspora/en.yml
index 750b6565b4a794ef9c7d82c069fa3f6b4e7996d9..265c279feba0bf91a7bcb0ab3441a530327eed47 100644
--- a/config/locales/diaspora/en.yml
+++ b/config/locales/diaspora/en.yml
@@ -42,6 +42,10 @@ en:
     destroy:
       success: "Successfully disconnected from %{name}"
       failure: "Failed to disconnect from %{name}"
+    share_with_pane:
+      share_with: "Start sharing with %{name}"
+      accepts: "Once %{name} accepts, you'll start seeing each other's posts on Diaspora"
+      add_new_aspect: "add to new aspect" 
   new_requests:
     zero:   "no new requests"
     one:    "new request!"
@@ -404,13 +408,8 @@ en:
       helper:
            results_for: " results for %{params}"
            people_on_pod_are_aware_of: " people on pod are aware of"
-      share_with:
-           share_with: "Start sharing with %{name}"
-           accepts: "Once %{name} accepts, you'll start seeing each other's posts on Diaspora"
       aspect_list:
            edit_membership: "edit aspect membership"
-      share_with_pane:
-           add_new_aspect: "add to new aspect"
   requests:
       manage_aspect_contacts:
           manage_within: "Manage contacts within"
diff --git a/features/connects_users.feature b/features/connects_users.feature
index e6a96148d2ca749569a9fb2d476b0dedaacd5b74..c0ee19a440b18c481c574a7d69699e8c38a1edf3 100644
--- a/features/connects_users.feature
+++ b/features/connects_users.feature
@@ -8,6 +8,7 @@ Feature: sending and receiving requests
     And I am on "alice@alice.alice"'s page
     And I press the first ".share_with.button" within "#author_info"
     And I press the first ".add.button" within "#facebox #aspects_list ul > li:first-child"
+    #And I debug
     And I wait for the ajax to finish
     Then I should see a ".added.button" within "#facebox #aspects_list ul > li:first-child"
     Then I go to the destroy user session page
diff --git a/spec/controllers/contacts_controller_spec.rb b/spec/controllers/contacts_controller_spec.rb
index e2ea06747aca86dfda1a1b94c5c99827e74bed38..5116640e24f804eb4cfbfd6a6fe46d5d3d95368a 100644
--- a/spec/controllers/contacts_controller_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/controllers/contacts_controller_spec.rb
@@ -25,15 +25,19 @@ describe ContactsController do
   end
 
   describe '#new' do
+    it 'assigns a person' do
+      get :new, :person_id => @user2.person.id
+      assigns[:person].should == @user2.person
+    end
 
-    it 'succeeds' do
-      pending "This is going to be new request"
-      get :new
-      response.should be_success
+    it 'assigns aspects without person' do
+      get :new, :person_id => @user2.person.id
+      assigns[:aspects_without_person].should =~ @user.aspects
     end
   end
 
   describe '#create' do
+
     context 'with an incoming request' do
       before do
         @user3 = Factory.create(:user)
@@ -58,6 +62,7 @@ describe ContactsController do
       before do
         @person = Factory(:person)
       end
+
       it 'calls send_contact_request_to' do
         @user.should_receive(:send_contact_request_to).with(@person, @aspect1)
         post :create,
@@ -65,6 +70,7 @@ describe ContactsController do
           :person_id => @person.id,
           :aspect_id => @aspect1.id
       end
+
       it 'does not call add_contact_to_aspect' do
         @user.should_not_receive(:add_contact_to_aspect)
         post :create,
@@ -72,6 +78,27 @@ describe ContactsController do
           :person_id => @person.id,
           :aspect_id => @aspect1.id
       end
+
+      it 'failure flashes error' do
+        @controller.should_receive(:request_to_aspect).and_return(nil)
+        post :create,
+          :format => 'js',
+          :person_id => @person.id,
+          :aspect_id => @aspect1.id
+        flash[:error].should_not be_empty
+      end
+    end
+  end
+
+  describe '#edit' do
+    it 'assigns a contact' do
+      get :edit, :id => @contact.id
+      assigns[:contact].should == @contact
+    end
+    
+    it 'assigns a person' do
+      get :edit, :id => @contact.id
+      assigns[:person].should == @contact.person
     end
   end
 
diff --git a/spec/controllers/people_controller_spec.rb b/spec/controllers/people_controller_spec.rb
index da3826c1d359c6e91526b3d75d9ae5d015ab7c26..b6b41acceb7fd7184c373ff9819004d47655ad6d 100644
--- a/spec/controllers/people_controller_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/controllers/people_controller_spec.rb
@@ -13,15 +13,6 @@ describe PeopleController do
     sign_in :user, @user
   end
 
-  describe '#share_with' do
-    before do
-      @person = Factory.create(:person)
-    end
-    it 'succeeds' do
-      get :share_with, :id => @person.id
-      response.should be_success
-    end
-  end
   describe '#index (search)' do
     before do
       @eugene = Factory.create(:person,